The following post is from Amanda of ohAmanda.com :
The last two months I’ve written posts on Family Your Way about quiet and margin. This whole idea of slowing down, silencing some of the busy in your life and cutting back on the to-do has been following me around lately. I’ve seen the same idea in books I’m reading, podcasts I’m listening to, blogs I’m following and even in music I’m listening to. Maybe someone is trying to tell me something?
Today I’m going to share a few more practical tips about getting your schedule quiet and staying quiet in your heart and mind.
I hope some of these ideas will help you not just relax, but stay away from stress and the overly busy.
1. Focus on now.
This seems trite, but it’s true. Don’t get caught up in your still-hasn’t-been-done-to-do-list. Focus on what you’re doing now–making pancakes, playing a game with the kids or cleaning out the closet. Lisa T Bergren in her book, Upside-Down Prayers for Parents says this is how we are to live life, “Not always anticipating what might be around the bend, over the next horizon, but focusing on here, now. To constantly be on the lookout for what’s next is to miss the blessings at hand.”
2. Turn off the radio.
There’s an old song by Switchfoot that says, “If we’re adding to the noise, turn off this song. If we’re adding to the noise, turn off your stereo, radio, video”. Sometimes we fill our hearts and minds with noise to keep us away from things we don’t want to think about. So, if something in your life is adding to the noise–turn it off!
3. Do what only you can do.
As moms, we try to do all the things. Michael Hyatt says, do the things that only you can do—cook that special meal, plan the birthday party or kiss that boo-boo. Learn to put some things aside and delegate (yes, I said delegate some of your mom duties!) to other people. Maybe that means you need to hire a mother’s helper to fold laundry, ask your husband to clean out your car or just stop volunteering at school. Whatever it is that you do best, is what should be priority on your to-do list.
4. Put your big rocks in first.
When you prioritize your to-do list, your wanna-get-dones and do the really important things first, you’ll have more time to do all the things you need to do. Your capacity (and room for quiet) will expand when you put your big rocks in first.
Although it is a day to day journey, learning to be quiet and build quiet-ness into my life has brought me more peace. I feel less stressed and I realize the things that seemed so important and pressing, really weren’t as big of a deal as I thought. When I focus on calming my schedule and mind down, I find myself more able to focus on what’s before me–my kids, my husband the life we’re living now.
What’s a practical way you keep quiet and margin in your life?
|Amanda is a stay-at-home mom of two who blogs at ohAmanda.com. In her former life, Amanda was a Children’s Pastor — overseeing, organizing and developing ministry for kids in nursery through middle school, but now that she is a mom, her “skills” are used up on her kids!|