Why I'm Buying My 8-Year-Old Her First Bra

She’s not yet 8 and just entering 2nd grade.

She knows more about the animal kingdom and world history than Sean and I put together, but she still giggles over Yo Gabba Gabba.

And although our culture rushes children through childhood and then lets them linger in adolescence, we believe childhood should savored and protected in those early years.

So why am I buying her her first bra already?

Honestly, I didn’t even realize that 8 years old was considered young for a bra until I mentioned it in passing to a few friends and they looked at me like I’d grown two heads.

But to be clear, when I say “bra”, this is what I mean:

why I'm buying my 8 year old a bra

The main reason I’m planning to buy my girls training bras early (when they turn 8, since we’re pretty big into birthday milestones in our family) is because it’s what my mom did for us! And I’m glad she did.

We all know that puberty can be a time of feeling self-conscious and uncomfortable with your changing body. And when I was little (and let’s face it, 8 is still little!), my mom watched other moms struggle to get their developing girls to wear bras. They were already sensitive about the changes their bodies were going through, and while they needed to wear a bra, it was a reminder of those changes, so they resisted.

She bought my sister and I training bras when we were 7 or 8 years old, and we were so excited to have something so grown up that it was never a struggle to get us to wear them. So when we did start developing, that habit was already in place and it simply wasn’t a big deal.

Although I was fairly awkward and self-conscious in general as an adolescent, I don’t remember ever once feeling self-conscious about my body, and I think my mom’s approach played a huge role in that.

That’s why my oldest baby girl will be going bra shopping for her 8th birthday.

If you have little girls, are training bras on your radar? If your girls are older, when did they get their first bras?

  • Shiels

    I just break into a sweat just thinking about it. I am mother to 1 baby girl, She turns 8 in 2 weeks and I must say I have been turning a blind eye on her growing chest. She had just turned 7 when she wanted to talk about bras and back then its was so easy for me to say, lets wait till ur 8.I’m not ready.

    • Jeffrey

      You are not, but she obviously is, since she talked to you about it and you ignored it. What a great way to treat a human being that depends entirely on you. You are much like my husband’s mother, who threw a goddamn fit when he moved out of their home to be with me because she “wasn’t ready yet”….

    • kira

      Your right you wait until your ready to let your daughter have a bra

  • Cyd

    I am 11 years old and I worry I won’t catch up to the other girls who are already wearing bras but I always remember that every one grows at a different rate but I still worry have any advice?

    • kira

      Just because other girls are wearing bras doesn’t mean you don’t have to get one just be you