{30} Things I Want My Girls to Remember About Me

our girls

I am counting down the days to my 30th birthday, and I couldn’t be more excited! Truly! As I was brainstorming ways to celebrate here on the blog, I couldn’t help but think that 30 lists of {30} items would be just about perfect for my type-A, list-making self. Join me for the next month as I share the things I’ve learned in the past 30 years and my hopes for the future! See all 30 Days of {30} posts here.

Two posts today because I missed a couple days last week when we were hit hard with a nasty virus!

Although we’re deep in the throes of raising “littles”, I know that it won’t be long until they’re grown and leaving our home to start a life of their own, and sometimes I wonder how my girls will remember their childhood. Will they remember me getting frustrated with them when they’re hyper and bouncing off the walls, or will they remember me responding with grace when they make a mistake or something gets broken? At the end of the day, I hope that my girls will carry more good memories than bad memories and that my legacy will be one of love and laughter!

I’m not a perfect mom by any stretch, and I don’t do all of the things on this list perfectly or consistently, so in many ways it’s my to-do list to work from as I look for ways to instill values and memories in them!


I’m glad I don’t have to make a list of the things I hope they don’t remember, but here are the things I hope they do remember about me:

1. That I love Jesus.

2. That I love their Daddy!

3. That I love each of them. Just because. Forever and ever.

4. The special nicknames I call them.

5. Making silly voices in the car.

6. That I apologize — to them, to their Daddy, to other people — when I am wrong.

7. That I love the Bible, especially my Bible.

8. Dancing in the rain.

9. Trying new things together.

10. Our sweet bedtime routine.

11. That I love to worship. And worshiping together.

12. Family sleepovers in Mommy & Daddy’s room.

13. Talking about the hard things.

14. That I look them in the eyes more often than not when they talk.

15. Serving others together as a family.

16. My attempts at becoming a better cook. (And hopefully eventual success!)

17. Times I responded to them with grace rather than harshness.

18. Exploring our local library together.

19. That I’m proud of them when they try, regardless of the results.

20. My enthusiasm for learning and for sharing information with them.

21. That I love to read.

22. And reading great stories together.

23. Family games of tag or pillow fights.

24. Praying together.

25. That I love to laugh.

26. Cooking together, one-on-one and with everybody in the kitchen.

27. And eating together around the table.

28. Stopping to smell the roses or watch the sunset just because!

29. That I was patient with them more times than not.

30. That the “people in the computer” — work, friends, whatever — were never more important to me than they were!

What legacy do you hope to leave? What do you want your children to remember about you?