{30} Ways to Show Your Kids You Love Them

ways to show your kids you love them

I am counting down the days to my 30th birthday, and I couldn’t be more excited! Truly! As I was brainstorming ways to celebrate here on the blog, I couldn’t help but think that 30 lists of {30} items would be just about perfect for my type-A, list-making self. Join me for the next month as I share the things I’ve learned in the past 30 years and my hopes for the future! See all 30 Days of {30} posts here.

In the busyness of this thing we call life, it’s easy to get caught up in just meeting the physical needs of our kids, especially with many littles underfoot! But one thing I hope my kids always know, no matter how busy the day has been or how stressed or grumpy Sean and I may get, is that we love them. Completely and totally. Without condition. Just because of who they are and not because of the things they do. Forever and ever.

I’ve realized that I’m not always the best at showing this. Shouldn’t they just know? I feed them every day after all! (Mostly kidding!) But I want to get better about doing the little things consistently so that there is never any doubt in their minds!


It’s hard to put all of the ways to show our kids we love into words, and this list just scratches the surface, but it’s a start:

1. Tell them. Often.

2. Give them special nicknames.

3. Write notes & hide them in their lunchboxes, under their pillows, etc.

4. Celebrate their birthday with lots of traditions (they don’t have to be expensive or involve big parties!).

5. Surprise them with special gifts.

6. Look them in the eye when they talk. (Do you sense a recurring theme with this one?)

7. Ask for their help.

8. Display their art work.

9. Tell them they’re beautiful.

10. Laugh at their jokes. Even the ones that aren’t funny.

11. Tell them secrets.

12. Hold their hands.

13. Read to them.

14. Play a board game.

15. Take the day off and go do something fun. Just because.

16. Wake them up to look at the stars.

17. Surprise them with an after-bedtime ice cream run.

18. Keep a journal of the things they do & say.

19. Brag about them when they can hear you.

20. Eat dinner together.

21. Rub their heads, touch their shoulders, etc.

22. Be excited to see them in the morning.

23. Cuddle with them when they have a bad dream.

24. Have a sleepover / camp out in the family room.

25. Take them on one-on-one dates.

26. Respect their individuality.

27. And their privacy (especially on social media).

28. Ask for their forgiveness when you mess up.

29. Discipline them when needed. And with grace.

30. Pray for and with them.

What other ways do you show your kids you love them?