Finding confidence when things don’t go the way you expect

Finding confidence when things don’t go the way you expect

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Finding confidence when things don't go the way you expect

{Whispers} Can I tell you a secret?

This year has been hard. Really hard.

Okay, maybe that’s not a secret…I’ve said it more than once over the past few months.

But, y’all, I’m worn out. Just plain worn out.

I’m physically exhausted from sleeping with a baby in my arms all night every night for more than a year. (Although it’s probably the waking up every couple of hours all. night. long., not the sleeping, that has me so tired.) I’m mentally exhausted from trying to get as much done as possible in the moments when he’s content and playing or someone else is holding him. And I’m emotionally exhausted because my emotions follow the rest, which means I find myself with a short fuse too often.

Finding confidence when things don't go the way you expect

But despite the exhaustion and the perhaps irrational fear that I will never sleep through the night again, at the end of the day I’m thankful for the lessons I’ve learned am learning through it all.

I’m learning to accept my limitations and just do what I can, and I’m gaining perspective and confidence in the process.

Because it takes confidence to admit you can’t do it all…

…to just be when you’re used to doing

…to say no to extra commitments

…to ask for what you need

…to adjust plans when things change

Finding confidence when things don't go the way you expect

There have been so many times in the past where people have said to me, “I don’t know how you do it all.” And while I’ve always been quick to point out that I have a lot of help, it’s still a little disconcerting and uncomfortable to be on the other side.

Now I watch my fellow bloggers and entrepreneurs achieving their goals, and I just shake my head wondering how they do it all! They’re launching businesses and traveling care-free with their families, writing books and going on book tours, speaking and consulting and expanding their businesses.

I’m working, but I crash too early each evening, never get through my daily to-do list, and write down business ideas just to discard them as not realistic during this season.

Finding confidence when things don't go the way you expect

I’m a doer, and I’ve spent too many years of my life finding my worth in the things I get done. After I hit burn out a few years ago, I learned the importance of self-care and rest, but these days I can’t even seem to check those off the list.

Some of you are at the top of your game right now, and probably think I sound a little whiny. It’s okay—I am whiny, and I’m not sure I would have understood five years ago either.

But for those of you who feel the same, I hope you’ve found confidence to embrace your stage of life and to ignore the people who say we all have the same number of hours.

It’s freeing, and I’m a better—if less productive—woman for it!

Finding confidence when things don't go the way you expect

P.S. Want to know another secret? Minnetonka Women’s Britt Trapper Slippers from Famous Footwear and Breyers Chocolate Peanut Butter ice cream. You’re welcome.


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This Post Has 3 Comments

  1. I LOVE my Minnetonka slippers. Soooo luxe and fabulous. And when I got mine I wondered if they would make my feet sweaty. I don’t know how they make them to where they are both toasty and breathable, but they totally don’t overheat my feet!! 🙂

  2. Beautifully said, Mandi. Finding confidence, especially in the hard seasons, is a challenge. Thanks for sharing and encouraging those of us who don’t have it all together…because, really, who does? 🙂

  3. <3 this. Those slippers look SO comfortable and CUTE! I was so burnt out by the end of 2015. I look at 2016, and while I did reach some big goals, it was the first time since I started blogging that my blog metrics didn't grow. In fact, my traffic went way down. I don't have a million products (or even one "good" one), I don't blog like the experts say to blog, but at the end of the day, I'm much happier than when I was burning the candle at both ends. I finally realized I couldn't do it all, and in order to write my book, I had to cut back from other areas. Now I'm trying to prep for the season with a baby again…a season I'm really, really rusty in! I have watched colleagues launch books this year and fly all over the country, speak at a bunch of conferences, be on talk shows, etc., and I keep thinking: "But I'll have a baby." I'm meeting with the marketing team of my publisher tomorrow to start work on the launch, and my goal is to have it be as much from home as possible. That life might be for some people, but I want to be able to tend to my family and not be crazy frazzled in the end. Here's to hoping 2017 is better! Thanks for the transparency, and know that so many of us have felt the exact same way!

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