Over the next five weeks, as we approach Father’s Day, I will be participating with four other bloggers in a series called Honoring the Man They Call Daddy.
This week, as we launch this series, we’re talking about showing our husbands love and respect. I shared my struggles and goals in this area on Tuesday, and JessieLeigh, Amy, Jessica and Tara are sharing their ideas as well:
From JessieLeigh at Parenting Miracles:
As Father’s Day beckons, just over a month away, our minds often drift to ways we can make it special… we start thinking about menu plans, special outings, or perhaps that polo you’ve been eyeing at Kohl’s sure to bring out the green in his eyes. But… is this what he wants? Perhaps, even more to the point, is this what he most needs from you?
Honestly? It’s easy to grab a new shirt… to find a fun gadget… to cook a yummy meal. And there’s nothing wrong with those things! But, at the heart of it, what does my husband need most from me? What can I give him that will have a lasting impact on both our relationship and the way his children view him?
I should be honoring him and showing him that respect each and every day… it is my duty, my calling, my responsibility. But how do you wrap it up in a box and slap a pretty bow on it? What tangible gift can I hand to my husband that illustrates the deep love and respect I have for him? How can I help my children show him that respect also, through a gift?
From Amy at The Finer Things in Life:
In no particular order:
- Time — Time with you, time with the kids.
- Food you make me
- Video games
- Back rubs
- Tickets to sporting events
- Date night
- Ice cream
I just (as in 2 minutes ago) interviewed my husband, asking him, “If you could have any gift valued under $300 for any occasion, what would you choose?” That list up there? Those are the things my man wants. Most noted? Many are not things at all.
I don’t know why it had never occurred to me before to ask him, “What do you want?” Maybe I thought I knew all the answers (I actually did know many of them – yay!), or perhaps I was slightly afraid of what he might say. What if what he wants will take a little more time and effort from me?
From Good (Cheap) Eats:
This past weekend hubs and I celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary. Seventeen years?! It’s been a good ride, and I’ve learned a ton along the way about how to love my husband even though we are so very different.
But, one thing we have in common is our love for good food. Cooking and eating together was a big part of our dating years — and we haven’t stopped yet. Cooking and eating, that is.
We’ve shared wonderful meals and tried lots of new things. We traveled France together twice and tasted some of the best and worst meals of our lives. We’ve eaten extravagantly at almost $500/month for just the two of us. And we’ve eaten frugally, at one point spending $400/month to feed a family of seven. Richer and poorer, in sickness and in health. That’s us.
The way to a man’s heart….
I have never met a man who didn’t appreciate good food and drink. So, it makes sense that as Father’s Day approaches, to consider some good eats and drinks for the fathers in your life.
I propose a veritable cornucopia of foodie-inspired gifts! Not only do these gifts support one of our most basic human needs (eating), but they also show love and respect if they fit the man they’re destined for. If the father you’re thinking of is like the ones I know, he will definitely appreciate these gifts.
From Feels Like Home:
I thought we’d start with something easy to ease into the series.
Jessie Leigh really means business. There will be no easy posts.
In fact, she started with the thing that is hardest of all for me.
I am sarcastic. I can be critical. Sometimes I mean it; sometimes I don’t.
The problem with sarcastic and critical – even when you’re joking – is that you start to believe the things you say. Because you said them, after all.
Words are powerful.
I brainstormed gifts I could give to Joe to show him that I respect him.
I thought about showing him that I trust and respect him with our children by going away for a few days, but I’m not sure that’s the point.
In the end, I couldn’t think of a single gift that would show him respect.
The more I thought about it, I realized that respecting my husband isn’t a once a year gift. It’s not packaged in pretty paper with a fancy bow. It’s a thousand little gestures spread throughout the year.
It’s attitudes and thoughts and behaviors.
Be sure to tune in next as we talk about meals fit for a king!
How do you show your husband love and respect? What are you giving him for Father’s Day?