The following post is from Bernice Wood of Living the Balanced Life:
Do you have a goal or target that you are working on? Are you having difficulty reaching the finish line?
Maybe it is decluttering and organizing your kitchen. Maybe you want to lose 20 pounds by Summer. Maybe you want to build a better relationship with your kids.
Whatever it is, it is important to you, but for some reason, you’re just not getting it done.
The Secret of Success
Let me share the secret of success — the secret to reaching the finish line.
Success is a few simple actions repeated over time.
Failure is a few simple actions neglected over time.
Every day, you have the opportunity to make choices to move toward your goal, or away from it. Let me give you some examples.
GOAL: You want to declutter and organize your kitchen.
OBSTACLE: You are overwhelmed with the project, so you keep putting it off whenever you have the chance to work on it.
SOLUTION: When you have 10, 20, or 30 minutes, pick one drawer or shelf and work on it. If you do this several times a week, you will eventually start to see progress.
GOAL: You want to lose 20 pounds by May.
OBSTACLE: You know what you are supposed to eat. You know you need to exercise. But every day you eat a cheeseburger and fries.
SOLUTION: Choose one healthy meal each day. Choose to exercise instead of watching TV. Every day you make the better choice will bring you one step closer to that bikini (not!)
GOAL: You want to spend more quality time with your kids.
OBSTACLE: Every day when they come in from school, you are busy doing work on the computer, trying to finish a project. Or maybe you are rushing to cook dinner.
SOLUTION: To intentionally build relationships with your kids, you need to have time and place to be with them. You will have to make the choice to finish the project earlier and devote time to hearing about their day. Or maybe have dinner in the crockpot or have them help you cook.
Steps Toward the Finish Line
We typically don’t see the progress or damage of our actions immediately, so it doesn’t jar us into changing. However, if we continue with those actions, over time you will see obvious change, whether for the positive or the negative.
Let me give a very extreme example…
You love fried chicken, mashed potatoes, gravy and biscuits. You have this yummy meal for dinner. You don’t feel your arteries hardening or your cholesterol rising, or your pants getting tight.
So the next day you think, “I sure would love some more fried chicken” so you repeat this action. And again you don’t feel the effect (other than maybe bloating or indigestion!)
However, if you were to continue this pattern for a month, I believe you’d be sluggish, your pants would be very snug, and your bloodwork would probably be higher, as well as the scale.
On the flipside, think of the opposite…
You know you want to lose weight, so you choose a grilled chicken salad for dinner, with just a little salad dressing.You skip the cheese and bacon and croutons.
You don’t notice a change the first day, but because you know what results you want, you repeat this action over and over again.
Even though you may not see the difference for a week or more, over time, the number on the scale will decrease and you would feel much better.
Think About Your Goals
What action can you do today, or maybe right now, to move toward the finish line? Ask yourself that everyday!
What one goal are you working on right now?
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|Bernice Wood is a mother of 4 young adult kids, plus Nana to 7 grandchildren. After a major lifechange summer 2010, she began blogging to journal her personal struggles and transition. To help others avoid the pitfalls of stress and burnout and learn to live a more healthy life, she recently launched her new blog at Living the Balanced Life.|