How to Silence the Mom Critic

The following post is from Kacey of Next Level Mama:

How to Silence the Mom Critic at
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Most of us moms have a critic. She’s well-meaning, all right, but she may just as quickly sap our energy, joy, strength and hope. She drags her disapproving eyes around our home and wonders why we fail to live up to our Pinterest boards.

She offers perfectly-dressed moms who serve up delightful gourmet meals while simultaneously handcrafting Martha Stewart-worthy favors for their kids’ birthday parties and wonders why we can’t do the same. Her standards inch up daily. She keeps us running non-stop with an ever-growing to-do list and unreachable aspirations. She’s persistent in finding our faults. Persistent in comparing us to other moms.

That critic? She lives within each of us.

She’s a familiar enemy, and our legacy as moms depends on our ability to silence her. If your inner mom critic has you feeling tired, discontented and less than, it’s time to cut her off. Silence her with these five steps.

1. Realize there are no perfect moms. No matter how fabulous another mom’s life may seem, every single one of us has faults. It’s part of what makes us human. Just because you can’t see her challenges or witness her failures, they most certainly are there.

2. Do YOU! Each one of us moms has a specific and unique combination of skills, talents, and experiences that define who we are and what we’re meant to do. Own what you’ve been gifted because it can’t be duplicated.

3. Set your own goals. Instead of wasting away the days trying to keep up with everyone else, create your own big, audacious goals. What can you do for your kids, your husband, and yourself?

4. Make peace with baby steps. Have you heard the saying, “Rome wasn’t built in a day?” It means it takes a long time to do something important. We moms are without a doubt doing an important job. With this job, it’s impossible for us to do it all and to do it all right now. Steady momentum will take us further than a crash and burn lifestyle any day.

5. Find joy in the every day. Critics can’t stand being around happy and contented people. Every day, find a way to celebrate a success or express gratitude. Joy breeds more joy and renders the mom critic speechless.

Has your mom critic reared her head? Does she leave you with feelings of not measuring up to other moms? How would you tell your younger self to prepare for the mom critic? 

Kacey loves her kids to pieces and the many ways they’re refining her into a better person. She’s on a mission to inspire and encourage moms to take it to the next level. This die-hard Texas girl rarely meets a dessert she can refuse. You can find her at her blog, Next Level Mama, or tweeting away at @nextlevelmama.