Reviewing 2014 and setting goals for 2015

Reviewing 2014 and setting goals for 2015

Reviewing 2014 and setting goals for 2015

I began seeing posts around the blogosphere last week that were looking back at 2014 and ahead to 2015, but in all honesty, December had already been so chaotic for us that I couldn’t even wrap my head around being reflective, evaluating the past year or setting goals for the new year!

Once Christmas morning came and went, though, I found myself so excited to look ahead. Which means I started purging and reorganizing right then (yes, on Christmas Day…I know!) and thinking back on 2014.

As I thought about 2014, I took notes (using the Evernote app on my phone) about what went well—and what didn’t. I’m sharing them here for some accountability and transparency. My intention is never to appear perfect or like I have it all together, and I think my “failures” below demonstrate that fairly well.

I know some people will quibble with my choice of the word failures. That word is emotionally loaded for many people, but I’m fairly unemotional when it comes to evaluating things, so it’s not for me. A failure is simply an opportunity to do better, not a judgement on my worth as a person. It’s a label that works for me as this year’s failures become next year’s goals!

It also became obvious to me as I put together this list just how much personality plays a role in goal setting. I feel like almost every one of these bullet points—and even the paragraph above—needs a disclaimer about my personality and why the goal, success or failure makes sense for me! I’ll just put it here instead: I’m an INTJ, heavy on the intraversion, heavy on the thinking. Basically, every stereotype about how men process things? That’s me.

Reviewing 2014 and setting goals for 2015

Parenting*

{successes}

  • Regular family movie dates.
  • Learned to be more empathetic with my girls, to read their cues and respond to their needs rather than what I think they should need.
  • Discovered the power of a hug for my adolescent.

{failures}

  • Still yell when I am trying to do too much at once and the girls are vying for my attention.
  • Dropped the ball on celebrating the minor holidays and little occasions as the year went on.
  • Did not continue family game nights regularly.
  • Christmas was hectic and harried, where it’s normally joyful and calm.

*I originally titled this category Marriage & Parenting, but the truth is that while we didn’t have any really big wins in our marriage this year, we’re at a really good place, and I just can’t really think of anything that I’d like to change. Well, I’d like to get back to going to bed together, but going to bed at 8 or 9 just doesn’t appeal to Sean, and I have to go to bed early in order to get up early (when I’m the most productive), so we’re making do for now. But other than that, I like us…I like the way we interact, I like the way we work together, I like the way we resolve conflict (most of the time). I probably should have goals for our marriage, but I’m being honest in this post rather than writing what I think I should write, and the truth is that I don’t!

Homeschooling

{successes}

  • Found an effective checklist system for keeping track of the girls’ work each day.
  • Finally have a good system for successfully introducing and reviewing memory work at home.
  • Settled on a realistic amount of work for the big girls and we were fairly consistent about doing school for most of the fall.

{failures}

  • Was not consistent with kindergarten for our littlest girl.
  • Was not consistent about reading out loud to the girls.
  • Did not make time for “extras” like AHG badge work, hands on projects, educational movies, field trips, etc.

Reviewing 2014 and setting goals for 2015

Business

{successes}

  • Consolidated most of my businesses—with the exception of Jungle Deals & Steals—into Life Your Way.
  • Scaled back Life Your Way to a more focused, more intentional blog.
  • Let go of {some of} my entrepreneurial tendencies and took a position in author recruitment for Ultimate Bundles.

{failures}

  • Struggled to stick to office hours.
  • For much of the year, I struggled with motivation and focus.
  • Didn’t finish—or even intentionally quit—everything I started.

Food & Exercise

{successes}

  • Successfully completed a Whole 30 early in the year.
  • Made lunch our main meal—with nutritious, filling meals—3-4 times a week.
  • Made most of the girls’ snacks fruit & veggie based.

{failures}

  • Gained 15+ pounds in 6 months from stress and not being intentional about what I eat.
  • Stopped drinking enough water each day.
  • Did not exercise…at all…after our Color Run.

Reviewing 2014 and setting goals for 2015

Personal

{successes}

  • Started piano lessons and made time for regular practice.
  • Picked up doodling as a hobby/art.
  • Discovered a love for teaching grammar and writing.
  • Read 80+ books.

{failures}

  • Not getting consistent sleep, in part because of the baby and in part because of poor habits.
  • Did not make Bible study and prayer a consistent part of my daily schedule.
  • Did not read as much nonfiction as I’d set out to at the beginning of the year.

Community

{successes}

  • Served regularly at church as the 4th grade helper (except in December, when illness has been the name of the game around here!).
  • Participated in American Heritage Girls, as a family and as the Pathfinder’s leader.
  • Participated in our Classical Conversations campus, as a family and as a tutor.
  • Served and raised money for the community and families around the world in December.

{failures}

  • Did not get together with friends for coffee or dinner on a monthly basis.
  • Did not make as many play dates happen for the girls as I’d hoped.

Overall, it was a good year. I learned a lot about myself, and made some really good changes, and I’m excited to continue that forward progress this next year!

P.S. Want some accountability for living intentionally in 2015? Join us!

This Post Has 4 Comments

  1. Thanks for being so honest! I like the way you listed successes and failures (as it appears to you, personally). I need to spend some time thinking about my goals for the next year. It’s been such a whirlwind lately that I need some quiet time to reflect.

  2. Yesterday I wrote up my first draft of 2015 goals – focusing on dreams and adventure. The past 2 years have been filled with a lot of drudgery – husband job loss and chronic illness for me – so now we are going to get back to some fun! I categorize my goals as health, family/social, professional and financial, with a lot more goals in the family/social area – no more hermits. (and I’m an ENTJ so totally get the use of the word failure without emotion).

  3. Yes, it is nice to see honesty, and we can all relate to everything you list. I like the list idea so will try and do that today. I am just cutting out a 2015 calendar to glue together the months into one large sheet and I am going to plan weekends away or day trips for 2015 for some family time, as life just passes by so quick and we did very little of that this year. I was diagnosed with breast cancer before Xmas but am all clear now and see it as a reality check to enjoy life more and stress less.

  4. I completely agree with your thoughts on the use of the word “failure”. It doesn’t speak to our value as people, but more as a reminder that we can improve. Love your honesty in this post!

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