So far this month, we’ve been focused on celebrating the good in our own lives. While that’s important, I also want to talk about the importance of celebrating other people as well.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve had friends in the past who seem to need to compete over every little thing. (I’ve even known girls who want to compete over who has it worst!)
Feeling the need to compete over every little thing is really a sign of insecurity. When we feel discontent with our own lives, celebrating the good in someone else’s can serve as a reminder of what we’re missing. But when we’re confident and sure and content about our own lives, it’s much easier to encourage and celebrate the successes in someone else’s.
(And the real secret here? Being confident and content has much less to do with the actual circumstances you’re in and more to do with your attitude toward them!)
I’m inspired by these quotes every time I come across them, as they remind me of the type of person I want to be:
“A candle loses nothing by lighting another.” (James Keller)
“Girls compete with each other. Women empower one another.” (Unknown)
It’s not enough to say we don’t want to compete with other people; we can go beyond just not competing and look for ways to celebrate, encourage and empower one another as well.
- Celebrating a career award or advancement
- Joining someone in their excitement over a new baby, new house or new job
- Encouraging others in their natural gifts and skills
- Celebrating the things that make each of us unique
When we do this—when we celebrate the beauty and talent and good in the lives of other people—it actually makes it easier to continue celebrating our own lives because celebrating other people is an antidote to jealousy and envy.
This is one of those cases where “fake it till you make it” works. The more you practice celebrating your own life and the lives of others, the more content you become with your own life, which in turn makes it easier to keep celebrating with and for other people.
ACTIVITIES & QUESTIONS
1. How easy or hard is it for you to celebrate the successes and joys in other people’s lives?
2. “There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.” (Edith Wharton) Do you agree with this quote? How do you think it relates to this idea of celebrating others?