Each week we run an interview as part of our “Yesterday, Today & Tomorrow in the Life of…” series. The interviewees share how their past has shaped who they are today as well as who they hope to be in the future. If you’d like to participate, just send me an email at [email protected]ourway.net and I’ll send you a questionnaire!
Today’s interview is with Courtney Buxton of A Work in Progress:
1. Looking back on your childhood, what events do you think shaped who you are today?
A large part of who I am today does not come from a childhood event, but more from a childhood place. I grew up in a small but diverse town in the Midwest, where we regularly attended church and people knew each other.
That place, and how everyone connected, gave me a heightened sense of community and good people skills. I grew up interacting with and getting along with folks who looked different than me, because that was normal. It was difficult at times, but mostly lovely.
There was also an event related to that place: we moved when I was in high school. Moving at such an awkward age taught me a lot about adaptation. I learned how to be friends with people who viewed me as an outsider, and now I can be comfortable in just about any setting. I am also sensitive to the feelings of the mom standing by herself at the PTA meeting with no one to talk to. I usually go talk to her.
2. Were you always so encouraging?
I think I’ve always been a good listener, which is the first step in being encouraging. I find that people naturally talk to me. They tell me their problems or something they’ve never told anyone else.
When I was practicing law full-time, clients would tell me things they had not told anyone else. It wasn’t that they were hiding it; it was just that no one had stopped talking long enough to listen. My legal skills definitely leaned more toward the “counselor” side of the law.
Now, I have found that I really enjoy hearing stories and encouraging others in any way that I can.
3. How would you describe yourself today?
“A work in progress” pretty much sums it up! I am a mom, a wife, a friend, a daughter, a volunteer, an occasional lawyer – I wear many hats.
Mostly, I am woman trying to continually develop my relationship with God and encourage others along the way.
4. What do you most love about your life?
I love that I am married to my true love, I get to stay at home with my boys, and we live in a beautiful place.
5. What would other people be surprised to know about you?
I was in Army ROTC for two years. I thought I wanted to fly helicopters.
When it became obvious that I was going down the wrong path, I quit. It was the first thing I had ever quit, and doing so was painful. I knew I was doing the right thing for me, but in some ways I felt like a failure.
Now, I am proud that I tried, but I still carry some shame that it didn’t work out.
6. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years?
I hope to still love the same things about my life in 5 or 10 years: my husband, my kids and my home.
I would like to add to that more personal development. I so enjoy this blogging hobby; I feel like it is my calling. During the next few years, I would like to take it to a more professional level, and find other outlets as well.
Maybe I will write for another publication, or come up with my own book idea. Who knows?
7. What legacy do you hope to leave behind?
Happy children who love the Lord. That is my to-the-point answer.
Jackie Onassis once said, “If you mess up your children, nothing else you do really matters.”
I agree. If my husband and I can raise children who love God, then I hope that the rest will come naturally. They will respect and care for others, be good stewards, and always try their best. Hopefully they will then raise their children to do the same.
My parents did that for me and if I can pass it on, that would be a wonderful legacy.
Courtney is a work-from-home mom who writes when her children are sleeping at A Work in Progress. She muses about motherhood, faith, and the search for domestic bliss. She loves her husband, still can’t decide about her hair, and is officially addicted to blogging.