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8 Dating Red Flags You’re Probably Ignoring

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Dating is a tricky business, and the dating world has changed significantly in recent years. There are many ways to date and many different types of people to date. So how do you know what’s right for you? You could rely on your intuition or your friends or even your family for advice about who to date, but sometimes we need a little more information than that.

The following red flags can help you make intelligent dating decisions and avoid serious relationship problems down the line. Keep these in mind next time you’re looking for love so you can date confidently and safely with peace of mind.

Communication from the very beginning

One of the dating red flags mentioned in the article is communication from the beginning. If you’re dating someone who doesn’t tell you anything about them, it’s hard to get a good idea of their type. Even if they say they’re interested in getting to know you and building a relationship, it could be disingenuous if they don’t have any intention or willingness to start that way.

It’s important to talk with people as early as possible so there isn’t any confusion later on. Talking with someone new is intimidating, but talking first can help build trust and make both parties feel more comfortable as time goes on.

Good physical boundaries

It can be challenging to know what’s appropriate and what isn’t in dating. It’s essential to be aware of your boundaries and to have a healthy set of standards for yourself.

Here are four dating red flags that may indicate that you need to establish a physical boundary with someone:

1) You feel uncomfortable being touched or hugged by someone.

2) You feel uncomfortable kissing someone.

3) You feel pressured by the person you’re dating to do something that makes you uncomfortable.

4) You don’t feel comfortable texting or talking on the phone with them.

Red flags you’re probably ignoring.

1. You’re dating someone who isn’t your type

Maybe they’re not your age, have a different religion, or don’t share the same views on social media. Whatever the reason is, if you feel like something’s not quite right with this guy or girl, they probably don’t match your personal preferences for what you want in a partner.

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2. Your partner is too clingy and needy

Find yourself constantly reassuring your partner about their feelings and telling them how much you love them. It might indicate that there’s something more going on in the relationship than mutual affection. Be careful not to neglect yourself to please your partner—that way lies heartbreak!

3. You’re dating someone who assumes everything will work out

This person is likely to become frustrated when things don’t go as planned and may even start looking for other options to make themselves feel better. Remember that people change and grow over time, so it’s important to keep that in mind when dating a new person. For example, if you date someone new and then break up but remain friends afterward, that means they were able to grow into the type of person you wanted them to be

4. The need to control your partner 

If you’re someone who needs to control your partner, then dating could be a problem.

One of the most common dating red flags is if you don’t want your partner to do anything without your permission. This can lead to resentment, confusion, and disappointment in your relationship.

The best way to avoid this conflict is to talk about what you need as a couple and how you can help each other out with those needs.

Both partners must be on the same page when it comes time for sex. If one person prefers sex one way while the other doesn’t or vice versa, it’s only going to cause problems down the line.

5. Abuse of alcohol or drugs 

This is one of the giant red flags you’ll see. If your date promotes their intoxication or gets wasted, this could signify that they’re not ready to settle down and build a serious relationship with you.

Could you not make them a priority? They’re not ready for it yet, so there’s no need to waste your time on someone who won’t be able to give you what you deserve.

6. Their past relationships 

We all have past relationships that didn’t end well. It’s easy to let those experiences influence your dating choices and make you think that the same thing will happen now.

But it’s important not to let your past relationship mistakes determine who you date next. One study showed that people who have had a string of bad relationships are more likely to date someone new with similar experiences—and thus repeat their pattern.

We need to avoid this vicious cycle by making sure we’re dating someone different from our past relationships.

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7. They don’t have a job.

It’s important to have a job to contribute to society. If you’re dating someone who doesn’t have one, something might be wrong with their resume.

First of all, if your partner doesn’t have a job, you might feel like they don’t care about the future or that they’re not serious about their relationship. A person who doesn’t work is more likely to be unreliable and unreliable people are more likely to be unfaithful and cause problems in future relationships.

Second, most jobs provide health insurance and other benefits for employees, so you won’t need to worry about your partner’s medical expenses.

Third, having a job means you’ll be able to afford essential things for you and your partner. It also opens up opportunities for travel and other adventures together. The person without a job may not have these opportunities available or find them enjoyable.

How to choose a partner

The goal of dating is to find someone who can make you happy. The easiest way to do this is by choosing someone who has a similar lifestyle and values as yours. When you’re looking for a partner, it’s important not to let any potential red flags get in the way of your happiness.

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What to watch out for

You should watch out for some red flags while dating to avoid serious relationship problems down the line.

1) Lots of anger: Are you dating someone who is constantly angry? If so, this person might have a personality disorder or be in a high-conflict situation at home.

2) Lots of spats: Do you frequently find yourself fighting with your new partner? This can indicate that the person doesn’t like conflict and is passive-aggressive.

3) No common interests: Do you realize that your new partner has nothing in common with you or has no interest in doing anything with you? An excellent way to know if this is true is if your partner spends more time with their phone than they do with you.

4) Isolation: Is your new partner hiding from people, not reaching out to friends and family, and isolating themselves from society? This can be a sign of depression or other mental health issues, but it could also indicate that the person is just introverted. You don’t want to date someone who’s always alone–you need company.

5) Sex addiction: Has your new partner ever gone on sex dates? It’s possible that they have.


One of the best ways to avoid getting into a relationship with a jerk is to know what dating red flags to look for. As a rule of thumb, any guy who does any of these things is a big-time jerk and should be avoided.

The key is to be aware of these red flags and take appropriate action when they start to show up. Don’t let the jerk get the best of you.

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