The following post is from Kat of Inspired To Action:
No matter how good things are going, mom guilt always seems to creep up, doesnt it?
Today, I’m going to give you 3 tools…let’s call them sledgehammers… to help you smash guilt to smithereens before it can fully rear it’s ugly head and wreak havoc with your life.
Sledgehammer #1: Know Your Mission
It’s pointless to feel guilty about not teaching your kids to play piano…if you and your kids don’t even like the piano.
Too often, we waste our time feeling guilty about things we don’t even care about.
Simply because Suzy McDoozy and her kids are great at the piano and they make it look like SO. MUCH. FUN.
Good for them.
Now forget about it and focus on where you excel and don’t let the mole of guilt eat away at you.
Sledgehammer #2: Counter Attack
“Is too. Is not. Is too. Is not. Is too. Is not.”
You’ve probably heard it often if you have more than one kid. But have you ever tried it on yourself?
Next mom guilt opens it’s mouth, let your logical self smack talk it back into it’s dark little hole where it belongs. Don’t let guilt hurl insults at you without throwing back a response.
You could just say, “Is not!!” and be done with it or you could take a more detailed approach:
How To Respond To Guilt
1. If you have a reoccurring guilt theme and if it’s something that actually fits into your mission, decide if it’s something you need to act on now.
2. If it is, make a simple plan to take action on it.
3. When the guilt arises smack it down by reminding yourself you are actively working on it. Bam! You can’t feel guilty about something you’re already doing, right?
You also can’t feel guilty about something you don’t want to do. So if it’s not something you want to take action on right now, remind yourself of that. Out loud, if necessary.
You can also remind yourself of the things you ARE good at and working on and that this is not one of them.
The key is to never just sit and listen to it. Whack it!
Sledgehammer #3: Be Like Kerri Strug
Do you remember the 1996 Atlanta Olympics? Kerri Strug was at the vault with a chance to win the all around gold for her team? Do you remember what happened? (If you don’t remember, here’s a refresher.)
Seriously. The greatest Olympic moment. Ever.
What if Kerri Strug let “gymnast guilt” overwhelm her after her first vault? She had a chance to secure the gold medal right then but she failed. I’m sure guilt tried to worm its way in to her pysche.
But what did she do?
She. Ignored. It.
Because she knew she had a second chance. Another opportunity to do it right. And if you’re still breathing right now, you do too.
People moving ahead cannot afford to carry the baggage of regret. Guilt pushes us back, not forward. It takes energy away from our opportunity.
Basically? It’s worthless. Pointless. Useless.
Guilt says you’re a victim. That your past defines your future. That change isn’t possible.
And guess what? That’s a big fat lie.
Every single moment is a fresh start.
Do you struggle with mom guilt? How do you fight it?
|Kat blogs at Inspired To Action, a site dedicated to helping moms develop the habits and skills they need to effectively manage their homes and raise children who are prepared to change the world. Kat loves music, running, technology, Jesus and Tex-Mex food. Not necessarily in that order.|