Each week we run an interview as part of our “Yesterday, Today & Tomorrow in the Life of…” series. The interviewees share how their past has shaped who they are today as well as who they hope to be in the future. If you’d like to participate, just send me an email at [email protected] and I’ll send you a questionnaire!
Today’s interview is with Sarah Thacker of Sarah Thacker Adoption Coaching and Consulting:
1. Looking back on your childhood, what events do you think shaped who you are today?
This seems so silly, but honestly, the first thing that started me on my path was when I got the “Kindest Student Award” when I was in first grade. From when I was a little girl, I had a deep sorrow for children who didn’t have a mom and a dad or a happy home.
When I was in fifth grade, I begged my parents to become foster parents. In my eyes, foster care was going to be about loving cute newborn babies. My parents did say yes. In reality, foster care was being a family to hormonal adolescent girls and mean boys… and some babies sprinkled in here and there.
It was a HUGE wake up call for me find out as a fifth grader what other kids had been dealing with in their homes and how they had been mistreated.
2. Were you always so compassionate?
YES! I went to college for Social Work and Early Childhood Education. My husband and I decided to start our family and we had three biological kids.
I always had room in my heart for more kids and knew that my husband did too, but I had to wait for him to figure that out! My husband has a huge heart for adoption and children, it just took him longer to realize it.
In 2008, when our biological kids were 5, 8, and 10, we adopted our son Josh from the U.S. foster system when he was seven. Last year, we adopted our son Reese from Haiti when he was two.
My educational background and hands-on experience inspired me to start my own parent and adoption coaching business. Adopting can be an emotional rollercoaster and I want to be a resource and cheerleader for people who are taking the leap of faith to adopt.
3. How would you describe yourself today?
Today I am a loving and compassionate mother (most of the time). I try to inspire my kids to be their own best self. I want them to rock at being who God created them to be.
I am learning to live in the present. My son Josh has taught me this well. He truly does not care about what happened yesterday or what might happen tomorrow. He shows me that the present is truly a gift.
I continue to be passionate about all children, their welfare, and I especially care about kids who don’t have forever families. Any extra time I can squeeze out of my schedule I try to put towards projects that help children.
4. What do you most love about your life?
I love looking for the best in people. I love looking into my children’s eyes and knowing that they feel safe, secure, loved, and known. I love that life is an adventure.
5. What would other people be surprised to know about you?
I think people would be surprised to know that my favorite kind of television to watch is mindless teenage drama shows like Dawson’s Creek — Joey and Pacey forever!
6. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years?
I am super practical and rational, yet I have huge dreams and a lot of faith. Kind of a strange combination.
I’ll just go the dream and faith route, it’s more fun: I’d like to bring home a super sweet little toddler girl that we have our eye on in an orphanage in Haiti. It doesn’t make much sense to add to our already busy family, but we have room in our hearts and our home.
I’d like to create a sustainable business that would allow our family to give more money and support more on the ground relief efforts in 3rd world countries, especially Haiti.
7. What legacy do you hope to leave behind?
I want ALL kids to have parents who are crazy about them! I want ALL kids to be fed, clothed, and feel like they are known. I want ALL kids to have “shiny” eyes, knowing that they are something special.
Sarah blogs at Sarah Thacker Adoption Coaching and Consulting where she helps moms who are stressed and overwhelmed with parenting their children get to a place where they feel peaceful, confident, and hopeful in their parenting through private coaching and six week Mommy Bootcamp programs. She also loves all things adoption. Sarah and her husband live in the land of 10,000 lakes in Minnesota with their five children ages 12, 10, 9, 7, and 3.